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Right Clothes for Conversation Success

plaid-shirt-1166213-m“You look amazing!” My then girlfriend, now wife, told me.
Earlier I had dropped some items off at a local thrift/second hand store. As I was walking out, a blue, silk shirt caught my attention.
5 Minutes later and $3 less rich I was the owner.
Over the next three years, people gave me dozens of compliments about the shirt.
Every morning as I chose which shirt to wear, I knew that choosing the blue shirt would bring me lots of compliments.
You and I choose our clothes to wear, but we can also choose our attitude.
Our attitude is more noticeable than our clothes and cologne.
Most would never intentionally go to work or school with stinky clothes or a mismatched outfit.
However, many have no problem walking around all day with a filthy attitude.
An attitude that…..
– Repels people
– Ruins the days of others
– Makes them and others depressed.
Clothe yourself with attitudes that attract people, make others happy, build relationships, and help make you a success.
Choose to clothe yourself with thankfulness and gratitude.
Pepper “Thank You” in your conversations. Tell someone, “I really appreciate how you…”
Look at the positives of life and be thankful.
As you dress up with this attitude you’ll be more like able and will brighten the lives of people around you.
Learn more in the Conversation Success System
Where is the shirt now? After years of use and many compliments, I took it back to the same store so they could sell it again to the next lucky person.
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!


Two Magical Words

friends-1073437-mThree of us were standing in a circle chatting. Jim walked up. Instantly we knew he was having a rough day. His eyes showed it and his posture was slumped.
Chris asked, “Hi Jim. How are you?”
Jim said, “Disappointed my team lost.”
At this moment Chris could have said dozens of zingers and comebacks.
“Your Surprised? Your Team ______.”
“At least they were not blown out.”
“They deserved to lose.”
“It’s just a football game.”
But no. He used two words.
Two words which you should always use in this situation. Two which will make you likable and nearly compel people to enjoy being around you.
Chris said, “I’m Sorry”.
Then followed up with what was the score? Then more empathy.
Jim instantly brightened up!
Every day people around us are having bad days or hear some bad news. Could be minor. Could be major.
Just starting with “I’m Sorry” will brighten their day and help you connect with others.
Try it and let me know the results.

How to End a Conversation

Break into any CliqueEver felt trapped in a conversation?
Mike was droning on and on. I had enjoyed the first 20 minutes of conversation because I used some tactics from the Conversation Success System to redirect the conversation to things I was interested in.
Now, I needed to leave and network with some other people. However, Mike had a full tank of conversation needs and could go on for hours.
How could I tactfully end the conversation? How could I leave without offending him? How could I escape?
I tried the “Praise and Exit”, I waited for an opening between stories and said:
Enjoyed learning about your trip. I need to catch up with some others. See you next time!
He acknowledged I said this and then launched into story #88.
Next, I gave him the end the conversation vibe. 
I turned away, looked away briefly, and took a step away.
He missed the cues. (As a side note. Always be watching your conversation partner and end the conversation if you see these vibes).
It was time to be firm.
Mike, I do appreciate talking with you (I had for the first 20 minutes), but I need to catch up with John. 
I shook his hand and made an exit towards John.
Usually the “Praise and Exit” is enough. But sometimes you have to be firm or you’ll be in prison for three hours.
Ending the conversation is an art just like starting a conversation. Both are covered in the Conversation Success System.
Master both and you’ll make friends and increase your chance of success in business and life.


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