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Don’t Be Intimidated

Have you ever felt intimidated by someone?
I am not talking about a bully with large biceps and a mean scowl.
Nope.

When I coach individuals, I’ll find that many feel intimated or uncomfortable around individuals who are more successful or popular:

It could be:
– Their manager
– A celebrity
– Someone they are romantically attracted to.

– A company owner or wealthy person

– Etc
How about you? Do these types intimate you?
Do you feel at a loss as to how to talk with them?
If so, remember this line from Larry King.
“Everyone puts their pants on in the morning one leg at a time.”
In other words, we are 90%+ alike. Every person deals with the same basic human emotions. No matter what your position in life, we all have to get dressed, wash our face, and deal with life’s details.
Recognize the other person is just like us in many ways. Then you can have a great conversation. Especially if you use the tips from the Conversation Success System

The Power of Interest & Making Friends

 Here is one of my favorite quotes:

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. – Dale Carnige

How to Spoil Any Chance of Conversation Success

It’s 4:00 in the afternoon and I am standing near the front of the retail store where I worked in college.

The door rings as it opens. Two men stride one. One tall and other short and stout. They looked to be in a rotten mood. In fact I would have preferred to push a button and be whisked away.

Since these buttons have not been invented yet, I approached the tall one.

I cheerfully said, “Hello Sir, how can I help you?”

He paused. Made eye contact and said, “What are you so happy about?”

I froze and realized I made a mistake that could ruined any chance of conversation success.

Here is the Rule:

Match the mood of the other person.

If you are feeling great, do you enjoy it when a person has an attitude that rains on your parade?

Or if you are feeling a little depressed do you want to talk to someone who is on top of the world?

No, its downright irritating. The answer is to match the mood of other person as described in the Conversation Success System.

Back to the fateful day.

I was taken back and said in a calm sympathetic voice, “Things are going well. How can I help you.”

By matching Their mood I was able to salvage the conversation.

Today, match the mood of the people you talk with.

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