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Shyness: How to Overcome Shyness – Day 7


We are on day 7 of our "Your Conversations Answered" marathon. Shyness is something I have struggled with and most of the population does the same.

Here is a readers Question on shyness:

I struggle with shyness. What can I do to overcome it.

Three tips will help you in overcoming shyness.

Tip #1: Shyness is like a reverse craving. A normal craving has you strongly desiring to do something. Shyness is a strong desire or pull not to do something. Namely get out and visit with people and make friends. You need to learn to overcome this pull. It will likely be there in some form for most of your life, however, you can learn how to reduce it and overcome.,

Tip #2: Learn some good conversation skills. In my course I teach 5 secrets that will turbo charge a person’s social skills. Learn practical stragedies like this and you know how to be great at conversation.

Tip #3: Practice, Practice, Practice. Greet the clerk at the store. Go out of your way to say hello to people. Strike up a conversation. Don’t let shyness hold you back! Just do it and your shyness will decrease-guaranteed!



Do you struggle with shyness and find it difficult to speak to differebt people? A reader asked this question:

I am terribly shy and find it very difficult to speak to someone I do not know. Being in sales, this is not a good thing.  I am very confident in my business knowledge, but sometimes come off as abrupt.  How may I soften my delivery and give a warm fuzzy feeling to people I speak with and still get the message across?

I too struggled with shyness early in sales. Actually, I still am tempted to be shy, but I have learned to deal with it. There are two issues:

First, how to overcome the shyness and talk to people.

Second, how to have a warm presence so people like you and feel comfortable in your presence.

How to Overcome Shyness

A quick way to help with shyness is to ignore the feeling, and just go talk with the person. What helps is to have a few good conversation starters. Then it is just a matter of getting in the habit of walking up to a person and asking the question. Over time your shyness will get less and less.

Don’t forget that many times others are just as shy as we are!

How to have a Magnetic Personality

Softening delivery is pretty simple with two techniques. First, you want to smile. Smiling makes your voice sound friendly. Second, think of a mental image where you would be talking softly/warmly to a person. It could be a child, a best friend, etc. This mental image will help put you in the right frame of mind to talk in a warm way.

These two ideas will get you started. I talk more on this in my Conversation Success System

As for improving in sales. This is a very motivating book and one of the best:



Have a great day,