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Conversation Skills and Liking Yourself

friends-1338873-mYou can like yourself and be more likeable to others.  Do this and your conversation skills will smash barriers and reach new heights.

Here is a game-plan to get you started.

To review yesterday, you need to act and have an attitude that you like and others like.

Too many people complain about their lack of natural talent or lack of looks. Listen! Your actions and attitudes are far more important that natural talent or looks.

Some of the most talented and good looking people on the planet are lonely and are bumbling conversation idiots. A snobbish attitude is like spraying on skunk smell and walking around.

Maximize your looks

Shave. Wash. Comb. Dress in style. Dress neatly. Carry yourself with confidence.

My now wife first caught my eye because she walked with poise and confidence. 

Have likeable actions
Some behaviors encourage others to like us and other actions repel people. Develop good conversation skills and behaviors. You’ll feel confident and likeable and others will see you as such.

Have a likeable attitude

One of the first keys in the Conversation Success System teaches you how to have a likeable and confident attitude. Many have just started using that key and seen tremendous results.

You can be more likeable. You can like yourself. Take action now and you’ll rewrite your future.

7 Ways to Repel People

city-people-at-sunset-1209081-mSuccess in business, life, and relationships hinges on people feeling comfortable around us and doing business with us.

Sure, there are exceptions. 

I know Frank whose hygiene and attitude stink, however, he owns a successful junk car yard. 

He’s the exception not rule.

Sometimes the first step in improving your success in relationships is to take out the trash. Dump the negative habits. Kick out the irritating behaviors.

Start with these 7.

#1. Cocky attitude / Stuck Up

My wife can’t stand being around people like this. This shows when a person thinks they better than everyone else. A critical error that will sabotage your relationships.

Don’t confuse this with confidence.

#2: Lack of eye-contact
Shows disinterest, though you may just be shy. Read the prior emails on how to have good eye-contact.

#3: Crowding personal space.

Everyone has a invisible border around them. Violate this and they feel uncomfortable. Keep your distance. 36 inches can be good. All depends on the circumstances. 

#4: Over talking

My friend claimed that he dated a girl who would not quit talking. He said he could put the phone down and 20 minutes later could pick it up and she would not know he had left.

Don’t have that reputation as people may barely tolerate you.

#5: Body odor.

Brush the teeth. Use breath mints. You know the drill. 

#6: Putting people down.

Harsh teasing. Put downs. Negative talk. This will crush your chances of long term success in your friendships.

#7: Bored look

George Bush lost votes in 1992 when he looked bored during the debates. Don’t make that mistake!

Avoid these and discover how to be a success with people by checking out the Conversation Success System

Question: How to Improve my People Skills

Break into any CliqueA reader asked me:

I feel shy around people and want to improve my people skills?

Great question. (Feel free to email me questions and I’ll answer them as time permits)

Having struggled with shyness, I feel your pain. It’s like a ball and chain holding us back from people.

Here is a good way to improve your conversation skills.

Pick one technique/idea and focus on applying it for three days. Then add another technique for another three days.

To many people get overwhelmed and try to apply twenty conversation tips at one time. It’s like trying to carry 20 cups of water at a time. 

Start slow and soon your subconscious will take over and you will naturally be great at conversation.

You’ll start to see results today. Gigantic results within a couple weeks. Your coworkers, family will be amazed by the transformation.

Just using Key #1 from the Conversation Success System will transform your skills immediately.

After a couple days, apply key #2.

The beauty of this is that you will automatically start to apply some of the other keys as you are focused on one technique.

You could use some sticky notes to remind you to keep applying  certain techniques.

It’s all about progress, not perfection

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