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What to Say After “Hello”

A few weeks ago, my wife and I attended a small social function. We were the honored guests. Great, but at first no one approached us to start a conversation. That did not bother me much. However, based on past experience the reason was simple. Individuals were either shy or did not know what to say.

What should you say when you first meet someone?

Here is what I did.

Me: Hi, my name is Austin.

Other Person: Hello, I am John.

Me: Nice to meet you. This is my first time here. How long have you been coming to these events.

Simple, but effective. What if they just reply with "Hi"? Just ask, "Whats your name?"

I'll often followup with mentioning someone else I know who has the same name, "John, I have a good friend named John who lives in CA."

This will get the conversation rolling. Learn more in the Conversation Success System


Being clear in conversation is important. Many struggle with this in one way or another.

This next reader asks:

 “My English listening and speaking are very poor, could you please tell me how to improve English listening and speaking?”

How to Improve English Language Learning for Free

I feel your pain, as this can be challenging. Here are a few ideas that have helped many people.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Turn on the radio or TV and listen to a sentence from the speaker. Then repeat the sentence. Or maybe you can have an audio book CD and listen to a couple sentences and hit pause. Repeat out loud a couple times. There is also online audio. Doing this for about 20 minutes every day will help increase your English speaking ability.

If you know how to read English, read books out loud. I heard of one guy who came to the US and wanted to improve his English speaking. Every night he would read aloud from a book. This not only improved his English reading skills but also helped improve the clarity of what he was saying.

If you are ever unsure of how to say a word, just go to and listen to the word.

Practice tongue twisters from this  ESL website:

Take 30 minutes a day to practice this and you  will see an increase in your language skills.

Here are some free resources:

Learn English for Free with Online English Learning


How to Get Better English Skills with Inexpensive resources.

I did some research and found a couple English learning products that are relatively inexpensive. I have not tried them, but they do have a money back guarantee.


English Survival Kit

77 Tips to a Better English Using the Internet


Hope this helps. Like every thing else in life it comes down to practice, practice, practice.

Have a great Day,


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Good Conversation Starters and Conversation Questions


A Good conversation starter will spark a fun and interesting talk. They are one of the easiest and best ways to start a conversation and make small talk.  Dating, business conversations, and couple talks all flow better if the conversation starts great.

Memorize a few of these questions below and it will make your next social interaction fun.


Good Conversation Starters and Conversation Starter Questions

Tell me about your day.

What do you enjoy about… (Your job, this party, the day,  etc)

What is your dream job or occupation?

What has been one of the best vacations you have been on?

What did you enjoy about college?

What were some good childhood memories?

How did you get started at your job, etc?

What influenced your decision to move or live here?


Try these out and experience the results.

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