Do you have friends or coworkers who match this description:

  • Turn small things into a huge crisis.
  • Constantly gripe about life.
  • Keep calling you to complain and stress you out.

My mom calls them Drama Queens. My dad says they are robbers because they rob others of joy through their constant complaining an inability to rise above the small challenges of life.

We all have hardships in our life and are hit with down periods. During these times we need some encouragement and a shoulder to cry on.

However, do we need a friend to be a therapist for us every day about the small challenges in life? If so, we are probably acting like a drama queen and robbing the joy from our life and others.

In another post I’ll describe how we can rise above the dram in our life. For now let me bring you some freedom from the drama queens in your life.

How to Stop the Drama Queens in Your life From Robbing You of Your Joy

Phone Rings.

You: Hello

Drama Queen: Hi. Today was horrible. I overslept… My car got a flat tire… I don’t have many friends… the weather is horrible… (they launch into their sob story).

How do you respond? I used to listen and show sympathy.

Not anymore.

I’ll take that back. I’ll listen and show sympathy if this is an occasional occurrence and clearly a friend/acquaintance who just needs to vent once in awhile. However, if the person has a history of being a drama queen, I sharpen my scalpel and get ready for surgery.

Bluntly tell them how to solve their problem, yet be nice about it.

Interrupting. Jesse, You keep oversleeping, so you need two alarm clocks. Last week you told me the tire was low. If you had fixed it, you would not have this problem. You would have more friends if you quit complaining all the time. You can’t change the weather. If you change your attitude, your life will improve! I care for you and want to see rise above these challenges.

Be firm, yet nice. If they can’t handle the full dose of truth, consider rephrasing the above as questions.

You are exposing them to the truth that they are a drama queen.

Here is what can happen when you do this:

  • Some will get mad and quit calling you.
  • Some will pause and agree with you and thank you.
  • Some will get mad now and later change their ways.

Usually we are doing people a favor by helping them break out of their negative, drama filled ways.

Sound harsh? Could be, so use this technique with wisdom. However, if I let a friend or coworker continue down this path they can ruin their life, my life, and others.

Don’t let drama queens rob you of your joy. Do them and yourself a favor and use this technique.

For more techniques on handling difficult people, check out the Conversation Success System

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