My friend John is an introvert.

He prefers reading books to hanging out with friends. His ideal job would be next to zero contact with others.

Introverts are individuals who naturally prefer their own thoughts and feelings to spending time with others.

Many introverts have poor conversation skills. Not John. He is a shining star in the darkness of poor conversation skills.

People enjoy talking with him.

Why? He knows how to listen and ask good questions (Covered extensively in the Conversation Success System). This is the #1 way that introverts can have great conversation skills.

Are you more an introvert (prefer time by yourself) or an extrovert (prefer time with others)?

Recently someone asked me, “Why are many people introverts?”

Great question!

 

Why Do Some People Prefer Books over People?

Two reasons.

One, they are like John and are naturally born that way. That’s OK. Many introverts are highly successful because they spend a lot of time thinking, problem solving, and getting things done instead of socializing. Smile

As we saw with John, you can be an introvert and have great conversation skills. 

Second, a person may tend to avoid others because they are not trained and confident in socializing with people.

Just like I used to be as a scared city driver.

City Driving & Avoiding People

I learned to drive in the country and loved it. No stop lights, minimal traffic, and almost no police! Motorway at twilightHowever, I avoided city driving at all costs. The busy traffic, left turns, and parallel parking made me nervous.

However, after taking a job in town I was forced to navigate the maze of traffic lights and honking cares. After learning the ways of city driving and practicing, I now enjoy city driving.

Being trained and confident makes city driving a breeze.

In the same way, you may like to avoid people because you lack the confidence and training. You are just a few techniques and some practice away from being like John and having great conversation skills!

If you need training and confidence, consider this:

1. Get training

2. Practice

It’s as simple as watching the video “Improve Your Conversation Skills in One Hour” and reviving the pocket guide. Next, apply just a few of the key points in your next conversation and you’ll gain confidence!

Sarah struggled with shyness and low confidence. In ten minutes she learned the power of the PRESS technique. Later that day she hung out with friends and felt a completely new level of confidence. She got the training and practiced the techniques.

You can be like Sue and John. Get the training, practice, and you’ll have fun with your new conversation skills.

Take Care,

Austin Barnes – Creator of the Conversation Success System

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