How to Pleasantly Baffle People

friends-1073437-mWant to pleasantly baffle people and brighten their day?

Yesterday, I walked into Wally World (as my brother calls it). 

The cool air refreshed me as my eyes adjusted from the blinding sun.

Standing ten paces from the door was an older man with white air, sitting on a plastic chair. His blue uniform revealed he worked for the store.

I glanced at his name tag and said, “Hi, Richard.”

He smiled, looked at me, and his facial expression revealed that he was trying to remember who I was. (I had never seen him before)

I continued into the store to picked up some diapers for my daughter.

 As the black conveyor belt carried the diapers toward the blond haired clerk. I said, “Hi Kerry. How’s your day?” 

She brightened up and said. Good. She was baffled also and asked, “Do I know you?”

I smiled and said, “Just your name tag.”

She laughed and took my money.

As I passed Richard, I said, “Richard, have a good day!”

He smiled, looked slightly baffled, and waved me on.

Pay attention to this.

Both Richard and Kerry were in a better mood when I left them than when I first came. 

You want your presences to brighten people’s days. Have this ability and you will turbo charge your success in business, relationships, dating, etc. 

Using names is one method. Find more in the Conversation Success System

Friendship Formula

friends-1338873-mAre you able to make friends fast? Do you have good friends that you connect with?

For the first three semesters of college, it was easy for me to make friends.

I showed interest in the RIGHT way and listened the RIGHT way. 

However, I kept smashing into a brick wall. My relationships and friendships stayed shallow.

We connected, but I was not developing close friendships.

Everything changed the fourth semester of college.

As I squinted through sleepy eyes (it was 8:30 in the morning), the teacher shared a secret to making more friends.

Instantly, I was awake as I realized this was the key to building better friendships.

That day I applied this powerful secret. Over the next few months my relationships and enjoyment reached a whole new level.

My teachers comment was the missing key. If you suffer from shallow relationships, this key will throw open the gates to new experiences.

It’s all part of the Friendship Formula revealed in the Conversation Success System.

Warm Eye Contact or ???

eye-openYou want warm-eye contact. Not scalding hot. Not ice-cold.

Staring at people eyes is like ratcheting up the temperature in a room and serving scalding hot coffee. The conversation partner will feel uncomfortable and want get away to “cool” off.

Some go the other extreme.

They avoid eye-contact. They may stair at the hair, the picture on the wall, the carpet, etc.

This comes across as ice-cold. Many people are not intentionally being rude or cold, but their lack of eye-contact screams rudeness and unfriendliness.

That’s unfortunate because sometimes it’s shyness or lack of training which is causing people to avoid eye-contact.

A simple solution will cause you to have warm eye contact and your eyes will never glaze over. Your Charisma and Likeability will shoot up faster than the temperature of the water I’m boiling tea right now.

Here it is:

When talking and listening, scan your eyes around the eye-brows, eyes, and middle of the nose. 

Keep your eyes moving. Go to a mirror and try it. Now apply this with the next person you talk with.

Let me know your results. There are a few other secrets to great eye-contact which you can find in the Conversation Success System.

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